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How good are you at receiving Acknowledgement?

Are you editing your day and filing it away like a checked to do list, or are you stopping to acknowledge your achievements and success?

I am really good at giving feedback. At acknowledging good service, great writing, great insights and the like. At the beginning of this New Year I have been challenged by three independent sources to hear praise and acknowledgement. To be willing to hear and receive more. I do hear it and am always grateful for it, these people meant, “yes but REALLY REALLY hear it!”

So, I am listening and noticing more at the start of 2012. I did a quick reflect yesterday in my inbox, cards and phone and pulled the snippets below. Yes, this really is from the last week! It’s amazing how powerful feedback is when you put it all together and read it.

These are genuine comments lifted from my files. I say this because I do know of some bloggers who frankly- make this stuff up. (I know- You’re shocked to learn this dear reader).

So why am I sharing these gems?

I’m sharing it to encourage you to go and look at what feedback you are getting about your work and your life more generally. To stop and look at the power of your feedback even if just to take a look back at the week.

We skip through life living in the moment or the next moment and rarely stop to take stock and pay attention. I’m suggesting that it’s helpful to-reflect and notice.

Here’s the feedback and something about what I notice when I actively look at the compliments of the last week.

“Marie, thanks for your many special care tips

-       This one dropped into my mailbox just as I started feeling victimized and sorry for myself :-)

My work makes a difference in people’s lives sometimes when I don’t even know it and don’t DO anything in that moment-Because they pickup the practical inspiration tips from this site.

“I just wanted to say thanks again for the Exploration days last week, I know you are sending us an evaluation and wanted to send this now in any case.  I found the session inspiring and re-energising, perfect at the start of a new year.  You have an amazing ability to balance the business world and personal growth.  I think you pitched the session perfectly giving those new to the ideas an insight and yet there was also great depth to the exercises too.  I was surprised just how quickly you managed to get us all to open up and know what we were really there for (Only at Huna courses have I seen anything even close to as effective)”.

“I haven’t shut up about the course yet and have desperately been trying to get my wife on it. Have been doing my “three a day” with the family every night as well. The course has been a massive boost to be honest. Desperately hoping that the magic doesn’t wear off”.

When people REALLY like what I do they sit down and send me unsolicited feedback. I get quite a lot of this and it’s lovely.

“ I loved your piece on the men you worked with last week. It really made me think how we sometimes deny men their male-ness and wisdom.”

People read my blog and I don’t even know they’re reading it. I like the fact that it makes people THINK- it’s the reason I write it.

“ You are my very precious friend and I love you”

Friends are such an important part of life and I am grateful for them every day. Expressions of LOVE are such a big part of my work and of who I am. Giving and receiving love is really what life is about. 

“Great course, excellent facilitation, I feel so much more confident in my coaching skills after these 2 days. Thanks Marie.”

“Just a quick note to say thanks for everything on the course – for one relatively new to management, it has been genuinely inspirational”.

Enabling people to think differently and see possibility through speaking, teaching and coaching runs through the whole of my career. INSPIRING new managers or managers who need a “revive and refresh” gives me a great feeling. We never forget an inspiring teacher. I like being that.

“ Marie Taylor, you are a genius. “

I like my brain and I’m happy to be considered to be “of extraordinary intellect and talent”(the definition of GENIUS) from time to time.

“My dear, lovely sister, thank you for all of my wonderful birthday celebrations. You are one of the many gifts in my life-always.”

Family are so important to me as we have lost a lot of people too early in their lives in ours. So, marking and acknowledging birthdays is important. Being considered a GIFT- in the family, well, who wouldn’t value that?   

“A brilliant facilitator- we need more of this type of learning intervention- much more. Thank you for helping me to think the thoughts of the really brave. My team will be the better for it and I will be a much better leader too!”

“Looking forward to our adventures this year- so glad to have you to share them with.”

I’ve had many an ADVENTURE in life so far and I do like a good adventure (must be reading all those Enid Blyton books growing up). Generating bravery and a sense of adventure in both thoughts and of the spirit is what I aim to do through my teaching and speaking work. It’s nice that others feel it too.

“Even when you are angry (your version of angry-which in my world is slightly irritated) I still think you are fabulous.”

How FABULOUS  to have people around me who accept me being mrs grumpy of godawfulday from time to time.

 

I am overwhelmed.

Overwhelmed, gracious and grateful.

So- Over to you. What are YOU hearing? What great feedback are you letting skip by you?

What are you doing that really makes you THINK?

What and who do you LOVE?

Where is your inspiration and who do you INSPIRE?

How are you using your gifts of your GENIUS brain?

What and where is your next FABULOUS ADVENTURE?

Have a listening and really really hearing it all kinda week.

Marie x

Living in London

I love living in the capital. I have lived here a long time and I still get lost in the city. I like that. I also like the fact that after 20 years everything is not familiar.I love the fact that when I have a spare half hour I can go into a gallery, stare at something new and get inspired. That I can meet people in interesting places anywhere in the city . That I can walk for miles, see the spectrum of all life being played out and can find plenty of green space in which to just, be.

What drives me crazy sometimes is; the litter, the lack of awareness that many people have for space- their own and that of others, the race for seats on tube trains and the lack of manners somedays. But, that is cities the world over is it not?

I have noticed that the energy is different in the capital in recent weeks. The Credit Crunch is making people nervous. I was coaching a client in Canary Wharf yesterday and I swear that part of town almost has a grey cloak hanging over it. Yet, there are still banks and trading organisations recruiting. They may be doing it quietly. Not advertising and not being very public about it, but there are still city jobs to be had.

The media reporting is so negative in London at the moment that I have stopped buying a newspaper. It's almost as though journalists are relishing the next piece of bad news .Maybe it makes them feel that their jobs and careers will be safe if they keep reporting negativity? I don't really know.

London is a great place to live and a great place to be in or out of crunch.I think sometimes we just have to pay attention to the type of communities we live and work in and see them for the great and fascinating places that they are.Partiularly when many seem to relish in trying to make us feel negative about everything.  

Today I am choosing to be eternally positive about my city.Londinium, I love it.

Living Right Now with old friends

Very EXCITED today. I have finished writing a book with a business partner Jeni. This book is a key part of our work to inspire women and provide a range of tools and resources to enable women to live in the now.To enable women to live their best life today.With a sense of trepidation , I gave a chapter to a really good friend to read last weekend. She loved it and said, "I'd buy this!".

After I had told her that as one of my oldest friends she was expected to buy it and if not it might appear in her Christmas stocking, she said, "no , I really would . It's great!"Now you might be thinking- well she would, she is a friend. NO NO NO. She is one of those friends who I have known for so long that she just tells me how it is.She would have no hesitation in telling me if she didn't like it.

 I once went out to a really special "do " with her. You know one of those where your ex from
10 years ago is going to be there and he has a new gal in tow who is 15 years younger than you? I arrived and she said " No, get it off, get it off." We then spent over an hour re-dressing me to look something like a cross between a hooker and a woman from catwalk queens. She was right. Even though I say so myself, I looked 10 times better than my original incarnation.

The fact that I couldn't dance all night otherwise the skirt would have ripped was irrelevant to her. Are you getting the picturee? The next day I had backache and my feet were wrecked because of the 4 inch heels. She simply said- "he couldn't take his eyes off you and she was SO jealous- made him re-evaluate his mistakes of letting you go. ( She had conveniently forgotten that actually, I had
ended the relationship!) She is a womanwho takes no prisoners. So I was rather pleased about her comments.Very Chuffed in fact.

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Here's to Living Right Now. ( and 4 inch heels)