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How good are you at receiving Acknowledgement?

Are you editing your day and filing it away like a checked to do list, or are you stopping to acknowledge your achievements and success?

I am really good at giving feedback. At acknowledging good service, great writing, great insights and the like. At the beginning of this New Year I have been challenged by three independent sources to hear praise and acknowledgement. To be willing to hear and receive more. I do hear it and am always grateful for it, these people meant, “yes but REALLY REALLY hear it!”

So, I am listening and noticing more at the start of 2012. I did a quick reflect yesterday in my inbox, cards and phone and pulled the snippets below. Yes, this really is from the last week! It’s amazing how powerful feedback is when you put it all together and read it.

These are genuine comments lifted from my files. I say this because I do know of some bloggers who frankly- make this stuff up. (I know- You’re shocked to learn this dear reader).

So why am I sharing these gems?

I’m sharing it to encourage you to go and look at what feedback you are getting about your work and your life more generally. To stop and look at the power of your feedback even if just to take a look back at the week.

We skip through life living in the moment or the next moment and rarely stop to take stock and pay attention. I’m suggesting that it’s helpful to-reflect and notice.

Here’s the feedback and something about what I notice when I actively look at the compliments of the last week.

“Marie, thanks for your many special care tips

-       This one dropped into my mailbox just as I started feeling victimized and sorry for myself :-)

My work makes a difference in people’s lives sometimes when I don’t even know it and don’t DO anything in that moment-Because they pickup the practical inspiration tips from this site.

“I just wanted to say thanks again for the Exploration days last week, I know you are sending us an evaluation and wanted to send this now in any case.  I found the session inspiring and re-energising, perfect at the start of a new year.  You have an amazing ability to balance the business world and personal growth.  I think you pitched the session perfectly giving those new to the ideas an insight and yet there was also great depth to the exercises too.  I was surprised just how quickly you managed to get us all to open up and know what we were really there for (Only at Huna courses have I seen anything even close to as effective)”.

“I haven’t shut up about the course yet and have desperately been trying to get my wife on it. Have been doing my “three a day” with the family every night as well. The course has been a massive boost to be honest. Desperately hoping that the magic doesn’t wear off”.

When people REALLY like what I do they sit down and send me unsolicited feedback. I get quite a lot of this and it’s lovely.

“ I loved your piece on the men you worked with last week. It really made me think how we sometimes deny men their male-ness and wisdom.”

People read my blog and I don’t even know they’re reading it. I like the fact that it makes people THINK- it’s the reason I write it.

“ You are my very precious friend and I love you”

Friends are such an important part of life and I am grateful for them every day. Expressions of LOVE are such a big part of my work and of who I am. Giving and receiving love is really what life is about. 

“Great course, excellent facilitation, I feel so much more confident in my coaching skills after these 2 days. Thanks Marie.”

“Just a quick note to say thanks for everything on the course – for one relatively new to management, it has been genuinely inspirational”.

Enabling people to think differently and see possibility through speaking, teaching and coaching runs through the whole of my career. INSPIRING new managers or managers who need a “revive and refresh” gives me a great feeling. We never forget an inspiring teacher. I like being that.

“ Marie Taylor, you are a genius. “

I like my brain and I’m happy to be considered to be “of extraordinary intellect and talent”(the definition of GENIUS) from time to time.

“My dear, lovely sister, thank you for all of my wonderful birthday celebrations. You are one of the many gifts in my life-always.”

Family are so important to me as we have lost a lot of people too early in their lives in ours. So, marking and acknowledging birthdays is important. Being considered a GIFT- in the family, well, who wouldn’t value that?   

“A brilliant facilitator- we need more of this type of learning intervention- much more. Thank you for helping me to think the thoughts of the really brave. My team will be the better for it and I will be a much better leader too!”

“Looking forward to our adventures this year- so glad to have you to share them with.”

I’ve had many an ADVENTURE in life so far and I do like a good adventure (must be reading all those Enid Blyton books growing up). Generating bravery and a sense of adventure in both thoughts and of the spirit is what I aim to do through my teaching and speaking work. It’s nice that others feel it too.

“Even when you are angry (your version of angry-which in my world is slightly irritated) I still think you are fabulous.”

How FABULOUS  to have people around me who accept me being mrs grumpy of godawfulday from time to time.

 

I am overwhelmed.

Overwhelmed, gracious and grateful.

So- Over to you. What are YOU hearing? What great feedback are you letting skip by you?

What are you doing that really makes you THINK?

What and who do you LOVE?

Where is your inspiration and who do you INSPIRE?

How are you using your gifts of your GENIUS brain?

What and where is your next FABULOUS ADVENTURE?

Have a listening and really really hearing it all kinda week.

Marie x

Winning Awards and Celebrating Outsourcing

Very exciting week.

Our Living
Right Now www.livingrightnow.co.uk web site homepage has won the Everywoman Network Award.A vote of recognition by other everywoman members-peers, entrepreneurs.I'm absolutely delighted.

It feels like the first public endorsement of what we are aiming to do with living right now. Women who have visited the site are "getting it". They're understanding our relatively simple philosophy, they like the layout. they're signing up to receive the freebies and are enjoying the free downloads.

I've been putting the final touches to the licensed version of Get Your Career in Gear , my ebook/ecourse on developing your own career management system this week available at Career and A Life .We've received our first 500 of the printed inspirational cards aimed ay women-they're lovely. The book cover and illustrations for our tips book for professional women is almost complete.

It has got me thinking about outsourcing, about my experience of using the expertise of others and the lessons learnt in doing so.

Over the last 7 years in business, I've spent a considerable amount of time working on the design of my websites, on reviewing designs for logos and brand promoting materials, on looking at the layout of cards, books and the like -on considering colourways in various guises.

It took me quite a long time in business to start delegating things out to others and seek advice from others with more expertise,ideas and energy to produce things for me in specific areas
of my businesses. I use an assistant and VA services form time to time when the workload in the consultancy business gets heavy.

What makes all of these relationships work? They haven't always worked, so I am thinking that today is an opportune time to recognise what does.

  • Relationship,intuition,relationship.If I can't "click" with a person I just know it's not going to work.I need to like them and respect them-quickly. 
  • Track record.Have they done what they say they've done and even if they have little experience because they're new to business, do I believe that they can deliver the goods?
  • Are they going to deliver on time? I'm someone who takes on too much, sometimes works to the wire and yet ALWAYS delivers on time.If a supplier can't, I'm not interested.
  • Is the quality of their work good and VFM? If I have to chase someone, check their work consistently or get nervous about what they're going to churn out for the ££ paid it reminds me of being a Senior Manager/HR Director and that experience of constantly managing and monitoring .I left corporate life in part because I was bored with that, so why would I entertain it now?
  • Can they tell it to me straight? I don't have time to waste.So, if someone needs me to do/say/present something differently so that they can understand what's required or doesn't agree with or like what I'm doing,I'd rather they told me-quick.(Even if I don't like it and need to lie down in a darkened room for 10 minutes)
  • Do they do what they do with good intentions? Intention plus delivery is everything to me.If someone messes up and makes a mistake, I'm not likely to shout and scream if it's genuine and they've done their best ( 2000 leaflets printed with the wrong web address sitting in a garage somewhere are testament to that) We all mess up sometimes.I'm more interested in what the person intends to do to make it right and get back on track without waiting for me to resolve it. like solution focused people.
  • Me- can I make myself available, give feedback quickly enough and give enough feedback clearly to keep things moving and get a win win for both of us?
  • Can I articulate clearly what I want, what I need by when and where it fits in my business so that outsourced suppliers get it and get me?

So, to those of you who have supplied me with business support to develop my businesses in the last 7 years here you are.Thankyou;Sarah Patience,Gary Hoyte,Ros Barker, Vicky Greig, Jan McCarthy,Martin and Nick at This is chemistry,Lisa Trouliotis, Keely Crowe, Judith Morgan, Nicola Cairncross, Steve Watson, Marion Ryan,Claire Raikes,Philip Samuel,Rohan,Alexandra Chalfont,Sue at Bossco,Nicola King, Leda, Samantha De Barry and If I forgot you it was only in this moment!

Marie