Do you plan life with a “just in case” in mind?

Do you always need a plan B? This came up for me recently when working with a coaching client who is planing to leave a relationship. Her leaving , is dependant on her ability to generate enough income to purchase a house  and walk away from her husband completely. She is telling herself a story that she doesn’t need a plan B. Only plan A will do. Yet, by creating the […]

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Re-lighting my fire with my alma mater

I’m visiting my old stomping ground in Cambridge this week at the University Business School. I come every year for a whole week to mentor existing and aspiring business owners during the Ignite programme. Every year, I am astounded by the potential science and technology that will radically change life as we know it once some of these innovations get into the market place. I am amazed every year at […]

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I love the Universe and it loves me

Last week I met the lovely Michael Neill for lunch and a house visit in LA. We had Sushi- very good sushi. (Doesn’t that sound impressive and flamboyant)? I wasn’t in LA just for luncheon. I was in Santa Monica to catch up with some friends. Michael very kindly invited me to lunch and to attend a two-day session with one of my all time favourite coaches- Robert Holden. Now, […]

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What is the difference between personal development and self help?

Someone raised the question of self help on a blog I read.  Self help, self insight, personal development- all sit on a spectrum of what we are about and what we do don’t they? They’re just labels for tools to help you, me, everyone to gain some insight whether that’s through reading, coaching, training or sitting on a mountain with an image of the Buddha. We’re all looking for some […]

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The Story of You

I recommended Steve Chandler’s book, The Story of You to three people last week. It’s one of the best books I have read on personal development. It challenges the reader to think about the story we invent or inherit about ourselves. It’s about how we sometimes exaggerate and embellish our story to impress. Twenty years of recruiting staff in my HR career taught me this doesn’t work for the serial […]

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Making Yourself Strong

“It helps my day when I remember to lead myself to higher ground, take a deep breath and go up the ladder into the spirit, the highest levels of consciousness where all creativity and compassion are.  Like Castaneda once said, You can make yourself miserable or you can make yourself strong. The amount of work is the same.” Steve Chandler

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My Guilty Pleasure

I have a confession. I have decided to get public about my guilty pleasure. I’ve been watching daytime TV. Specifically, I have been watching Judge Judy.  I have had a head cold so I have been lying on the sofa for a couple of hours a day for the last few days. I could argue that my head is full of “stuff” and that is beginning to affect my faculties […]

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Flattering the Boss

This is not surprising to me. What is surprising is that the research comes with a how-to provided (perhaps inadvertently) by the American Bar Association Journal. According to the study, here are the traits that are most likely to be rewarded. 1) Frame flattery as advice-seeking. For example, you can ask, “How were you able to close that deal so successfully?” 2) Argue before accepting a manager’s opinion. 3) Compliment […]

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Do your Relationships Add up?

This resonated with me this morning having spent yesterday afternoon with a very scarce client who sees everyone in the world of quantity surveying as competition so he doesn’t connect with them.  He’s a self employed QS who didn’t do well last year and lost a business – he can’t see that he ran out of cash because he was being scarce about getting in new clients ahead of other […]

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