The magic of ordinary thinking men

I spent 24 hours exploring getting happy with 6 men of Wales last week. Before you create some strange image from the recesses of your imagination, it was purely professional. I deliver a “send me your best and stressed ” explorations experience in organisations. A kind of self reflection experience which addreses some “what” and “how” questions . Things like; where am I , what do I value, who am […]

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Digging through our Roots and Planting new Trees in New Landscapes

  “There exists a different state of mind beyond our cultural conditioning and programmed assumptions”.  This quote is from Buddha’s four noble truths. It originates from the 6th century BC when cultural conditioning was different and yet was, it seems, as rooted in our thinking as a frame of everyday unconscious reference as it is today. People viewed their current experience and thoughts through the lens of their historical understanding […]

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Silence, observer sports and a golden ticket

The path of least resistance is silence. The path of least resistance is always silence. If we don’t express our feelings and thoughts to others we don’t have to deal with their reactions to them. We don’t have to deal with anything in fact. If we choose not to express thoughts but dismiss them. If we consider them merely a constructed reality that don’t impact us if we don’t let […]

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Running and Ruminating on the Basement Steps of Suffering

  Are you making it all too difficult by ruminating with the room mate in your head?    “The primary cause of our suffering is not our experience, but our response to our experience; what we think about it.“ Buddha. 6th century BC.   Stuff happens and I think if the Buddha was looking at our lives today he would suggest we stop thinking about the negative. That we might […]

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The wheel of tortuous thinking

Are you torturing yourself in your head?   “All our desires, disappointments, negativity and fear, are a torture chamber of our own cognitive creation”   This quote is from Buddha’s four noble truths. It originates from the 6th century BC, so, I think it safe to say that it falls in the category of ancient wisdom.   To my fallible mind this tells us that anything unhelpful is our own […]

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Rogue Trading – Careers built on gambling

There’s a reason why the gaming industry often has contractual terms preventing their staff from holding an account or betting in their own shops. When people work in betting shops, online gambling and tracks , frankly the temptation to bet on anything and everything that pops onto your radar during a working day is too great. So, generally,they go and have a flutter in the betting shop down the road at […]

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Welsh miners- Some careers are dangerous these days

I’ve been keeping in touch with the tragedy unfolding in South Wales where three of the four miners have now been reported deceased. An absolute  tragedy for their families and for the community. Mining areas are strong communities and whatever the outcome of all of this, the people will , with support get through it. I am struck by how we forget so easily that what seem like ordinary jobs […]

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Embrace your Inner Geek

I had a moment of enlightenment when I was mentoring at my old Alma mater in Cambridge a couple of weeks ago. I realised I am a geek. Keep reading-This is an unusually self promoting, self interested post from me….. Keep reading.. I’m not a technical geek but a mind geek……”How do you  know?” I hear you ask and “Where’s your evidence smart butt?” Well, truth is, I  make sense […]

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Are you surrounded by love?

I’ve been thinking about love a lot lately. About how we express it and experience it. As a young child, I don’t recall ever feeling that I wasn’t loved. I thought I was adopted once and searched avidly for my true birth certificate because there was no way, on that particular day that I could possibly belong to my family. On another occasion, I ran away with my little vanity […]

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Clint Eastwood is my cousin

m4s0n501 I’m enjoying a bit of a film revival and I recently watched Bridge Over Madison County. It’s a beautiful film. I realised when watching it that Clint Eastwood looks like an older version of my cousin, Kevin. I haven’t told him because he might get big headed and start joining lookilikee conventions. To be honest, it’s unlikely.He is one of the least ego centric people I have ever met. […]

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