“ I am convinced that one of the most helpful things we can do for people is to refuse to buy into their inappropriately restricted views of their limitations” Nathanial Branden
At this time of year I do some random check ins with clients I have coached. It’s a half hour call where we just chat about what ‘s working, what possibilities the clients I have worked with are creating, what successes they have noted since our work completed and an opportunity for me to say thanks for a great year.
I did a call yesterday with a wonderful woman who is already successful in her field and is destined for even greater things in 2013. When we met, she was great at standing up in front of casts of hundreds to deliver presentations. Her research and her knowledge of her specialist subject are well known and highly respected. Everyone sees her as a huge success.
This time last year she couldn’t even attend the awards ceremony where she was up for an award ( delivered in her absence) because she was just too shy to be seen. Her own self image was very different to the outside she portrayed most of her working day. She had what she described as ” body and self esteem issues “. She was shy of shining and standing out because she felt small, petite, diminished and insignificant . ( Her words in session one not mine). I just didn’t see that. I saw a savvy, smart, hardworking woman underselling her potential.
In our call today, she relayed her experience of this years’ awards ceremony where she didn’t get an award. She had a great time mingling with others in her bright red dress ( off the shoulder and above the knee please note ) and when she was invited up to give the acceptance speech that she was too afraid to give last year, she did. I asked her how it made her feel.She said….. ” A little nervous, then very brave, then, so confident that I could have stayed on that podium and talked all night. I was ON FIRE” . (Must have been the red dress).
Lyn is an example of why I do what I do. She couldn’t even bear to look at herself in a mirror for more than five seconds when we met. Coaching is all about possibility, it’s all about, getting the fear out, looking it square in the face with a clarity that says ” I love life and you dear fear are not part if it anymore.” It ‘s about singing ” I got my red dress on ” or ” get up and boogie” whatever song you want to sing. It’s about finding your true song and learning to sing it for the first time.
And sometimes, it’s about learning how to sing in an off the shoulder red dress to accept the recognition of the wonderful you that others can see when you can’t – yet.
I love facilitating success. After sixteen years of coaching I never tire of helping people change their story.I love seeing the possibility of my clients unfold like the pages of a crisp new book.I’d love to work with more people like Lyn who want a new story and want to live in possibility land. I made a little you tube video about Thinking in possibility and you can watch and like it here.
There are some slots available for coaching with me from March 2013. I work with clients for 3 months, 6 months or on my ” YES” (You Exploring Success) one day intensive. Get in touch by clicking on possibility ifyou want to create possibility and success. Put ” I want to wear my red dress in 2013″ in the header of your email, or if your shy that I might judge you for wanting to wear a cute little red number (I won’t) you could simply write….
“Can we have a conversation about my coaching with you in 2013″
Loving the possibilities.